Sexual desire is one of the most common issues with which couples struggle.There are several different scenarios.One
person would like to have increased sexual frequency and the other is content with the status quo. This later person gets
labeled as someone with low sexual desire. Maybe this is not actually the case. Maybe it is a mismatch between the couple
and needs some negotiation.
Perhaps there was a good match sexually and then life events took a toll on the marriage and the sexual feelings for one
or both. Family crises, work stress, deaths, children's demands all take their toll.
Perhaps there was an event like infidelity and trust disappeared in the relationship. It is diffifult to have strong sexual
desire without trust.
Barry and Emily McCarthy in Rekindling Sexual Desire note that couples are in trouble if, among other points:
1. Sex is more work than it is worth.
2. Touching almost always leads to sexual intercourse.
3. One is always the initiator and the other feels pressured.
